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#21 ·
Every Chevy truck since 1999 that I've seen has one headlight out.
 
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Rockefela said:
Every Explorer I know always has a taillight out and recently tons of Mercedes..... Still don't use that as any real statistic though...

I agree about the Audi :hump:
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I know its not a realistic statistic; thats why I referred to it as a running joke. :) It gets funny after a while to see the same problem on just about every VW that passes by. :) Although the VR6 seems to be immune. The 1.8T seems to just be plagued.
 
#26 ·
Why dont you educate her on cars. The worst thing in the world is the feeling of helplessness when your car breaks down and you have no clue whats going on.
 
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lowlifestyle said:
And it had a Powerworks on it.:thumbup:
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That is relevant I suppose as far as quality proof; it had been driven hard, tracked in 117 degree heat, then driven home and ran like a champ with the AC on.
 
#29 ·
My SVT had more stupid issues, mostly easily fixed or dealer fixed (ECU went bad and cost a pretty penny). Don't get me wrong, I loved it to death. My GTI has had minor issues, but basically it's turn the key and drive. All in all, it's been more reliable the the SVT ever was.
 
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EggYolk_Zetec_ZX3 said:
My SVT had more stupid issues, mostly easily fixed or dealer fixed (ECU went bad and cost a pretty penny). Don't get me wrong, I loved it to death. My GTI has had minor issues, but basically it's turn the key and drive. All in all, it's been more reliable the the SVT ever was.
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If mine was that reliable, I would still have it. The secondary air injector check owns me. Tried everything to fix that sucker. It was at a point where I couldn't do anymore to the car because that problem refused to be fixed. I went through 3-4 mafs in less than a year. :(
 
#31 ·
Oh I can relate. I have a few friends who are VW/Audi nuts. So much so that they have VW jewelry and VW tattoos.
 
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#32 ·
sounds like you need to keep that pimp hand strong....jk

sounds like she needs to understand its basically your kid, and while suggestions can be made, they will most likely be ignored.

for me id say if she wants one so bad trade in her damn car and get one, then again I am not as nice as most people.
 
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If she can afford to trade in her Altima and pay for the VW herself, that would be fine. In fact, if you've found a finace (or wife) who can pay her own way, then you could be in a better position than many guys. However, it doesn't sound like that is the situation, and...

slowerthanyou said:
Cuz she wants me to trade in the FoFo for the VW, so she can take away my car, give her a new one, and make me drive the Altima.
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...if this is becoming "I want a VW (or new car) I want you to help pay for it, and I want to tell you what to drive" situation, you may be headed down the road to ruin. Given that you need your own car for work (and fun) she needs to respect your interest in a car as well as her own.

Without knowing how much she is going to pay for the car herself and whether she will also cover maintenance it's difficult to offer suggestions. One thing is clear, she needs to respect your choice of a car even if it may be different than her own. I'd sit down and have a discussion, encoraging for her to look into the ownership costs of a VW (or any other brand) while getting her to acknowledge your choice of a car is yours to make.

I had a similar situation with my fiance, and now (2nd) wife. She hated my purple '97 Escort (although I explained it was the winter car) and didn't like the ride of the '00 ZX2 S/R. At the same time she wanted to replace her rusting '00 Subaru. One advantage I have with my situation is her late father worked for Philco-Ford, so she isn't adverse to the Ford brand. In fact, she respects that Ford didn't take any bailout money and builds fairly reliable cars.

She bought a Chevy HHR (although she did like an Escape) paid for it herself and pays for her own maintenance. In the interim, I replaced the purple 'scort with a '07 ZX3 which suits her fine, even if it is a 5-speed. She's just going to have to get used to the go-kart like handling (and ride) of the ZX2 S/R.

Before you enter into marriage, it would probably benefit both of you to work out how you negotiate decisions like this, and in particular, leave space for each person to make their own decisions without 2nd guessing by the other party.
 
#35 ·
Now I ain't sayin' she's a gold digger, but sheesh!

What in the everloving hell makes her feel so entitled to a new car? Does she not understand your financial situation? And, what the hell is she contributing financially? You're fixing up her car as YOUR funds allow - clearly you two aren't rich.

If she wants a VW so damn bad, she can pay for it herself! And if she can't, STFU!! Or, go find some other sucker to fund her new VW.

If she's this petty and shallow now, you're in for a short, painful, expensive marriage.
 
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#36 ·
unfortunately i too have the same problem haha the wife wants a VW :screwy:
even after i explained to her maintenance would be a hassle, especially where i live...not too many reliable places
 
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#37 ·
2 VWs in the family with zero real issues. The GLI is a cert pre-owned with a warranty to 75K and the Tiguan is lease with free scheduled maint. The only thin I don't like is that the free scheduled maint on the Tiggy is every 10K for oil changes meaning I still have to pay every other 5K for a change.

Both cars are turn key runners without any real issues. A friend of mine is a VW mechanic and drives a big turbo Mk4 GLI with close to 320 whp as a daily driver and has had very minor issues.
 
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#38 ·
Step up and go trade her Altama in for her VW. Don't tell her your doing it, just do it. Then tell her you did it because you wanted her to have a car that she loves as much as you love your SVT.

So what if your SVT has 120k on it. You can replace the whole engine and tranny for $2000 or so. Thats still cheaper than any VW she wants.

My wife is obessed with BMW 3's. But she also wont tell me to get rid of my Focus for one.
 
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Queen Jade said:
Not in a million years. :lol:



My husband and I both had (I still have mine) 03 SVTs and we were both very lucky with our cars. My car has spent less than 5 days in the shop for any kind of service over the four years I have owned it. I am on the stock clutch too. He had his for three years before offing it in 06. He never had his in the shop for any mechanical service what so ever.

I do agree with you regarding gremlins in any make; but from my experience and what we notice driving down the road, its the running joke around here that every VW you see, new or used has a tail light out. :lol::dunno:

I do want an Audi though. I like the abuse. :lol:



For anyone who hasn't witnessed the freak of nature that was Aaron's MK III VR6....it was unlike any VW ever made. The engine bay was beyond clean and you totally babied that car. Unfair example. :lol:
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Yeah, my ex (who was supposed to be at FOTB) has an 03 euro package SVTF in yellow. It's currently got 95k on it and she's never had a problem with it. She's obsessed with her car and won't move on from it.

Her brother offered to give her his previous 06 BMW 330i and declined as she wanted to keep her Focus and only use that :lol:

I enjoy the car too when I borrow it from her, but i was spoiled by my little go-kart of a ZX3 and find it drives like a pig compared to my much sorely missed my old car.
 
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Wow, I had no idea that this would stir up such a discussion.

She's still harping on me about my manual transmission, saying that "If there was an emergency, I wouldn't be able to drive it."

My suggestion, "Let me teach you how to drive a manual."

Her response, "I don't know, I don't think I really want to learn. Why are you so attached to it? It's just a stupid Focus!"

-she's Italian. Opinionated as hell.

The problem is, she owned a Jetta 1.8T, loved it. Traded it in on the Altima, and considers it to be one of the worst mistakes she has made. Now she wants to be back into a VW. Not saying that's a bad thing, but from everything that I've been able to figure out, VW has a tendency to be expensive to repair. Everything that has broken on my FoFo has been cheap, but VW parts? SHEEESH! She doesn't seem to want to listen to me, even though I am a fairly competent auto mechanic, and have an understanding of what it takes to repair and maintain a car. Oh well, we'll work it out, I'm sure. Once "new car fever" wears off, and reality sets in, we'll be fine. I'd love to take her Altima down for a trade in, but honestly, I can't afford the $600 a month that VW will charge me for the Tiguan, or the $950 a month for the Touareg. Oh well.
 
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