Now that you are a "Family Man", you might consider the Windstar. I have a 2002 Focus ZTW and a 2003 Windstar, both with side airbags and Advance Trac.
The way Ford is marketing Advance Trac on the Windstar is part of a popular package, so there are plenty of them in dealer's inventories. The package also includes Reverse Sensing, which is very useful. In this area, the rebates and loyalty discounts now being offered by Ford are the best ever. Anyone in your family in the military - get an even bigger discount.
When you stop gaffawing at the mere mention of a Windstar, just let me say, I am driving both a Focus and a Windstar, and the Windstar is a very nice vehicle; it is not a "come down" in driving feel compared to the Focus. It has its own personality, and I enjoy it in its own way.
I live near the Honda Odyssey plant. I toured the plant and extensively checked out the Odyssey, but concluded that the Windstar was a better vehicle, all things considered. The Windstar is even built in Canada !
I presume that you are aware that you can go to
www.fordvehicles.com ; find dealers in any area ; then browse their inventory of vehicles in stock. You can even bring up the Window Sticker of each vehicle.
Good luck !